The Journal

Let me tell you a secret: your brain does not give a single f*ck about your dreams. It only cares about keeping you alive. And to your subconscious, “alive” equals “familiar.” Even if that familiar thing is toxic, stressful, or soul-sucking. That’s why change feels so freaking hard. It’s not because you’re weak. It’s because […]

What if the biggest mistakes come not from drifting off course—but from trying too hard to stay on it? Last week, my newly permitted teenager was behind the wheel with me in the passenger seat. For the most part, she was doing beautifully—calm, focused, and in control. But then she turned right onto a busy […]

Why is it that every worry seems louder in the middle of the night? Because at 2 AM, your conscious mind—the part that reasons with you, calms you down, makes lists—has gone off duty. What’s left? Your subconscious, running its favorite playlist of: This is why subconscious reprogramming matters. You can’t control every thought that […]

For a long time, I thought power came from pushing. Pushing back, proving myself, having the last word. If someone disrespected me or treated me like I was wrong for not agreeing with them, I felt like I had to fight until they finally saw my point. I wore myself out doing this—mentally, emotionally, and […]

Here’s a truth that many of us don’t want to face: We all have choices in life. You are not stuck unless you choose to be. When things don’t go our way, we can decide the universe is looking out for us… or we can decide it’s just more proof that nothing ever works out […]

Words matter. They impact us physically, emotionally, and energetically. The language we use shapes not just how others experience us, but how we experience ourselves. I was working with a client once who kept saying things like, “I’m grateful my plane didn’t crash,” or “I’m grateful my plants weren’t dead when I got home.” I […]

Feelings are not facts. They’re not your identity. They’re simply messengers. It’s so easy to confuse your feelings with who you are as a person. I’ve done it. We all do it. When you’re feeling anxious, it can sound like I am anxious. When you’re feeling angry, it turns into I am angry. Before you […]

Who decided burnout was noble? (Because it’s not.) Somewhere along the way, we started treating exhaustion like a status symbol. As if running on fumes means you’re serious about your work. As if sleep, space, and stillness are luxuries you’re only allowed to have if you’ve sold your soul to the gods of hustle. Honestly? […]

 And why neither requires perfection People often believe that confidence means having it all together and knowing what to say. Getting it right all the time. Being sure and being in control. But that version of confidence is often rooted in performance, not truth.It’s what we’ve been taught to value: polish, certainty, perfection, dominance. This […]

Perhaps This Is an Unpopular Opinion, But Detailed Planning Is Overrated Ok, I know you Type A people pleasers are shaking your head at me. But hear me out, please. We’ve been taught to worship at the altar of being organized. Having all our ducks in a row. Knowing all the pros and cons. It’s […]