Recently, my almost sixteen-year-old daughter asked if I wanted to have lunch with her. That meant signing her out of school and leaving my office. I asked why she wanted to have lunch and she said, “I miss you.” And that was it, no agenda, no request for a ride or money,  just an honest, unexpected invitation to connect.

So I rearranged my afternoon, closed my laptop, and left the house early. Because how often does your teenager ask for one-on-one time? A different version of me that bought more into the patriarchal bullshit story that we have to work “harder” to be doing enough might’ve said, “I can’t, I have too much to do,” or justified the break by calling it “productive bonding.” But this version of me knows better.

This version of me understands the art of doing less.

I grew up believing that being busy meant being valuable. That my worth was somehow tied to how full my calendar looked or how exhausted I felt at the end of the day. We live in a culture that praises the hustle — work harder, do more, keep moving. And as a Projector in Human Design, that never quite fit. My energy was never meant to be a constant output. It’s designed for focus, for guidance, for bursts of brilliance followed by deep rest.

Still, I fought it. I said no to overwork, but then felt guilty about it. I’d set boundaries, then question them. I’d finish everything I needed to do — serve my clients, write, handle the business tasks — and then make myself find more work just to fill the hours.

Because what if I wasn’t busy enough? What if I was doing it wrong?

The turning point wasn’t about stopping the need to be productive. It was about allowing rest to be good and right for me.

My body taught me that lesson before my brain caught up. The tension in my jaw, the headaches, the fuzzy lack of focus — all signs that I was pushing past my limits. As a Splenic Authority, my intuition speaks through my body. Quick pangs, tightness, a physical “no.” It’s never wrong.

Now, when I feel those signals, I listen. I slow down. I check in. I trust that rest is not only allowed, it’s required.

That shift didn’t happen overnight. I had to reprogram the story that downtime equals laziness. That if I’m not busy, I’m not useful. Those old beliefs live deep in our subconscious. The good news? They can be rewritten. That’s exactly the kind of subconscious work I help clients with — the rewiring that makes peace feel safe, not foreign.

Because when I rest, I’m better. I’m more patient, more creative, more open. I’m kinder to myself and everyone around me. I get clearer downloads about what’s next. The messages about what truly needs my focus come through when I stop trying to control the timing.

Trusting in divine timing never fails me.

I see this transformation in my clients all the time. Whether through a custom Human Design Subliminal Audio that helps them realign with their natural flow, a Subconscious Shift Session to release guilt around rest, or even in my Reclaim Your Peace Retreat in Costa Rica, where deep rest becomes medicine — the moment we stop forcing and start listening, everything changes.

Doing less doesn’t mean you’re giving up. It means you’re letting life meet you halfway.

So yes, I had lunch with my daughter. We laughed, we talked, and I was reminded that moments like that are why I chose this life — the flexibility, the freedom, the ability to follow what feels right.

It’s not about doing nothing. It’s about creating space to simply be.

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Reflection

Where in your life do you fill space just to feel safe?
What might open up if you trusted that doing less could be enough?

Your Embodied Action Step

Today, finish what truly needs to be done — then stop.
Notice what your body craves next. Rest, movement, connection, silence.
Give yourself that, without guilt or justification.
Pay attention to how quickly your nervous system softens when you do.
That’s the space between doing and being — and it’s where everything starts to make sense again.

Embodied Presence & Soul-Aligned Action

Stop asking if you’re doing it right. Trust your intuition, align with your Human Design, and create joyful, abundant success your way. Check this out, Stop Asking If You’re Doing It Right. Start Asking If It Feels Right.

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