What if the biggest mistakes come not from drifting off course—but from trying too hard to stay on it?

Last week, my newly permitted teenager was behind the wheel with me in the passenger seat. For the most part, she was doing beautifully—calm, focused, and in control. But then she turned right onto a busy street. In her effort to stay clear of oncoming traffic, she overcorrected to the right and directly into parked cars.

Thankfully, no one was hurt. My car took the brunt of it. It’s a mess, but it’s just an accident, a mistake, and it’s something we can deal with.

Here’s what struck me in the aftermath:
My car is fairly new, and its steering wheel is designed to self-correct, gently guiding the tires back to center without a lot of extra effort. But the driver’s ed cars she’s been training on are old school. She wasn’t used to that subtle support built into the system. She didn’t trust it—and in not trusting, she overcorrected.

And isn’t that exactly what we so often do in life?

We ignore or mistrust the natural self-correcting systems built into us. Our instincts. Our inner wisdom. Our bodies. Instead, we let fear and “not enoughness” drive, and in trying so hard not to get it wrong, we overcorrect. And sometimes that creates an even bigger mess than if we had simply allowed ourselves to be guided.

Maybe it’s in business—you don’t want to look inexperienced, so you overcompensate by over-preparing, over-explaining, or over-delivering.

Maybe it’s in relationships—you fear rejection, so you twist yourself into knots trying to be who you think others want you to be.

Maybe it’s in your own self-care—you feel guilty for slowing down, so you push harder, staying up late or over-scheduling until burnout hits.

The truth is: you already have a self-correcting system inside you. Your intuition. Your body. Your subconscious patterns are waiting to be reprogrammed into alignment. The wheel wants to straighten out—but you have to loosen your grip enough to let it.

Some reflection questions to help you tap into your inner knowing:

• Where in my life am I white-knuckling the wheel instead of trusting myself?
• What fear or story makes me feel like I have to “prove” I’m enough?
• When have I overcorrected in the past—and what would have happened if I trusted my instincts instead?
  

Embodiment Practice

Take a few minutes today and literally practice loosening your grip:

1. Sit with your hands on your lap, palms down. Inhale deeply.
2. On the exhale, turn your palms up and let your fingers naturally uncurl.
3. Repeat this several times. Notice the subtle shift in your body when you surrender from control into openness.
4. Whisper to yourself: I can trust my inner compass. I know what’s best for me.

This is how you start teaching your nervous system what trust feels like.

Want Support in Trusting Your Inner Guidance?

This is the work I do every day with conscious leaders and entrepreneurs—helping you stop overcorrecting and start trusting your inner wisdom.

My Subconscious Shift Sessions are one-on-one intensives where we reprogram the old fear-based stories keeping you stuck in overcorrection.

My Human Design Subliminal Audios are designed to help you align with your natural blueprint so you can trust the system already inside you. Don’t know your Human Design? Pull your free chart here.

And if you’re craving a fully immersive reset, my Costa Rica retreat, Reclaim Your Peace, is the perfect place to step away from outside noise and learn how to trust yourself again.

You don’t need to fight so hard to stay in your lane. You already know the way forward.

The truth is, life is full of curves, unexpected turns, and even the occasional parked car in your path. But the more you learn to trust yourself, the more you soften your grip, listen to your body, and believe your inner wisdom, the less likely you are to slam into something while trying too hard to avoid it.

That doesn’t mean you’ll never make mistakes. You will. We all do. But mistakes are part of the road, not the end of it. Every one of them is an invitation to reassess, reframe, and build resilience—what I call The Three Rs in my BRAVE Method.

So the next time you feel yourself overcorrecting, pause. Breathe. Ask: What if I trusted that I already have the tools, the wisdom, the inner steering to navigate this moment? What would change if I loosened my grip, just a little?

Because the wheel knows how to find center. And so do you.

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