Here’s a truth that many of us don’t want to face: We all have choices in life. You are not stuck unless you choose to be.

When things don’t go our way, we can decide the universe is looking out for us… or we can decide it’s just more proof that nothing ever works out for us.

One choice leaves you feeling excited, hopeful, and joyful. The other leaves you feeling lost, unworthy, and sad.

I will always choose excitement, hopeful, and joyful. I don’t want to live any other type of life.

The Choice  

Every single moment is a choice. Do you see rejection as a closed door—or as the universe nudging you toward something better? Do you see a difficult season as punishment—or as a necessary clearing so something new can bloom?

The choice you make determines your emotional state. It colors your future decisions. It even shapes your nervous system. This isn’t toxic positivity, it’s radical responsibility. Choosing joy and hope doesn’t mean denying pain. It means trusting yourself enough to believe you can hold both.

Everyday Magic

Everyone knows I love to read. And one of the reasons I enjoy fiction so much is because of the unexpected insight, connection, and ideas I get from books.

Last week, I was reading A Witch’s Guide to Magical Innkeeping (a fun little cozy fall read), and there was a passage that grabbed me:

“Sera knew it didn’t, couldn’t, change the memory, because that night had already happened, and Luke hadn’t been there, but what it could do, what it did, was a simple magical act of transmutation. She saw the memory through his eyes. And what she saw, for the first time, was not ugliness at all, but pain so enormous and consuming that it had felt like dying.”

That word—transmutation—is so powerful.

While the magic we read about in fairytales may not exist, there is magic you can feel in your bones. It’s called intuition and self-awareness. And it shows up when you change how you relate to your own life.

This magic is as real as the sun warming your skin, the grass under your feet, the rain soaking your hair. As real as the first flower in spring or the first snowfall in winter.

Transmutation in Action

Here’s the good news: you can create your own transmutation spell.

How? By choosing to reprogram the stories, beliefs, and old decisions that keep you stuck. By learning to know, like, and trust yourself. By choosing to see a memory differently, not to erase what happened, but to shift your relationship with it.

That’s where tools like NLP, subconscious reprogramming, and Human Design come in. They help you literally rewrite the script your subconscious is running so that old stories no longer hijack your nervous system. They let you turn pain into wisdom, fear into curiosity, and self-doubt into radical self-trust.

I’ve done this work for myself and with hundreds of clients, and I can tell you: it works. And it feels like freedom.

Where This Leads

This is the core of my work as a Transformation Coach: guiding conscious leaders to step out of survival mode and into alignment with their own joy.

Sometimes that looks like a Subconscious Shift Session, where we pinpoint and rewire a limiting belief that’s been running your life. Sometimes it looks like custom Human Design subliminals, designed to gently reprogram your subconscious so you can embody the truth of who you are. And sometimes it looks like coming away with me to Costa Rica.

Because transmutation doesn’t happen when you’re burnt out, distracted, and constantly pulled in ten directions. That’s why I created the Reclaim Your Peace Retreat in Costa Rica—a six-day immersive reset at Imiloa Institute where you’ll experience plant-based, chef-prepared meals that nourish body and soul, somatic movement, group hypnosis, and EFT tapping to reset your nervous system, indigenous practices like a sound bath, breathwork, and blue clay ritual, one-on-one Human Design coaching and transformation sessions with me, and an intimate, inclusive community of women and queer folks ready to choose themselves.

It’s the kind of space where real transmutation happens. Where you remember who you are, reclaim your peace, and return home feeling whole.

The Real Magic

At the end of the day, the magic isn’t in a spell book. It’s in your choices.

To see yourself as ready rather than broken.
To see your past as wisdom you can build from rather than as proof you’re unworthy.
To choose joy, hope, and possibility over despair.

That’s the real magic. And it’s available to you, right now.

Reflection: Your Transmutation Spell

Take a moment to ask yourself: Where in my life am I still choosing the painful story?

Notice how it feels in your body when you hold that old story. Then, gently shift with conscious self-inquiry: What else could be true? What if that “failure” was protection? What if that rejection was redirection?

The BRAVE Method reminds us that expansion comes when we set boundaries, reframe the story, take aligned action, and allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to try again.

Your action step: Choose one story you’ve been carrying about yourself and write a new version. Don’t erase the truth of what happened, simply transmute how you relate to it. Let your nervous system breathe into a new possibility.

That’s your magic. That’s your transmutation. You’re never stuck unless you choose to be. Meanwhile, check out this video below.

Empowerment Through Conscious Choice

Reclaim your power, own your choices, and lead with confidence to create a life you love with empowered leadership. Check this out, A Lesson in Radical Responsibility and Reclaiming Your Power.

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