I honestly can’t believe this post went viral.
Why do the things labored over often get less attention than the things that simply feel human? This week is about the bridge of relatability: why it matters, why it doesn’t require oversharing or self-exposure, and why it quietly shapes trust, safety, and connection everywhere you go.
A few weeks ago, I shared a short, somewhat random note on Substack. It wasn’t polished thought leadership. No deep research. No careful positioning. Just a simple celebration of paying off a massive debt after two heavy years and an invitation to celebrate together.
And then something unexpected happened.
It went mini-viral. Thousands of likes. Hundreds of comments. People flooding in with relief, pride, hope, and recognition.
At first, that reaction stung. Where was this energy for the carefully written pieces? The deep dives into Human Design, the E.A.S.E. Pathway, subconscious work?
But once the initial frustration settled, the reason became obvious.
That post worked because it was relatable.
Relatability at Work: Trust Is Built Here First
Let’s start where the stakes are often highest, and the rules feel tightest: the workplace.
Relatability isn’t about being casual or oversharing at work. It’s about being recognizable as human. When leaders, colleagues, or teams feel distant, overly polished, or untouchable, psychological safety erodes. People stop asking questions. They stop offering ideas. They stop taking healthy risks.
And eventually, they stop trusting.
When people feel unseen at work, the damage compounds quietly. Collaboration turns transactional. Feedback feels threatening. Misunderstandings linger because no one feels safe enough to clarify. Productivity might continue, but connection disappears.
Relatability restores trust not through performance, but through presence. Acknowledging pressure. Naming relief. Allowing appropriate emotion without turning the workplace into a confessional. That’s how safety is built.
Personal Relationships: When Roles Replace Real Connection
The same pattern shows up in personal relationships.
When relatability is missing, people start performing roles instead of relating. The responsible one. The strong one. The fixer. The easygoing one who never needs anything.
Over time, this creates emotional distance. Not because people don’t care, but because they no longer feel seen. And when you don’t feel seen, you start doubting yourself. You wonder if your needs are too much. You hesitate to speak honestly. Trust erodes not just with others, but internally.
Relatability brings people back into shared humanity. It says, “You’re not alone in this experience,” without demanding emotional labor from anyone else.
Community: A Cultural Corrective to Perfectionism and Posturing
Zoom out even further, and you’ll see why this matters at a cultural level.
We live in a world that rewards polish, certainty, and performative confidence. That kind of posturing creates distance. It encourages comparison. It quietly tells people they’re behind, broken, or irrelevant.
Honest relatability disrupts that. Not the curated version. Not vulnerability as a branding tactic. The real kind. The kind that allows people to feel relevant, included, and seen without having to prove anything first.
This is how communities soften. This is how belonging is restored. This is how pressure loosens its grip.
The Difference Between Honest and Performative
Here’s the line that matters.
Relatability does not mean turning yourself inside out. You don’t owe anyone access to your private world. You don’t need to bleed on the page or disclose everything to be real.
Honest relatability is grounded. It’s regulated. It’s intentional.
It’s being transparent without being porous. It’s choosing connection points that feel true and safe for your nervous system. And it’s taking responsibility for what you share, why you share it, and how it serves both you and the people receiving it.
Why This Connects to E.A.S.E.
This connects deeply to the first pillar of the E.A.S.E. Pathway: Explore. To be relatable in a way that actually serves your wellbeing, you have to explore your own truth first. You have to know what you feel called to share and what you need to keep for yourself.
It’s nearly impossible to connect in this way if you haven’t done the work of self-awareness and alignment. Relatability requires radical responsibility. We have to remember that we can’t change or control anyone but ourselves. But the magic is this: when we change ourselves—when we show up with honesty and grounded confidence—the people around us change too—the energy of the community shifts.
Reflection Question: Where are you currently holding back a “human” moment or a celebration because you feel it isn’t “professional” or “polished” enough? What would it feel like to let that be the bridge instead?
Somatic Drop-In: Take a moment to notice where you are sitting or standing. Feel the weight of your body supported by the chair or the floor. Take a deep breath in, and as you exhale, imagine releasing the “mask” of having it all figured out. Let your shoulders drop half an inch. Notice the quiet strength in just being exactly as you are.
Join the Conversation
Building a business, a community, or a life of ease isn’t about being a polished version of yourself. It’s about being a human version of yourself. It’s about realizing that our shared humanity is the bridge to deeper, more sustainable success.
This week on Live with Heather Vickery, we’re talking about what it means to be relatable, how to do it authentically, and why it matters so much for conscious leaders.
I’ll be live on Thursday at 12pm CT on LinkedIn, YouTube, and Substack.
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