The Assumptions of People Pleasers

With Featured Guest

Ahdri Kent

Activate • Visceral • Whimsical

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The Assumptions of People Pleasers

With Featured Guest

Ahdri Kent

Activate • Visceral • Whimsical

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Top Takeaways From This Episode

  • There are different types of people-pleasers, which type are you?
  • It’s important to release things into the world the way that it wants to be released – don’t force them.
  • You can use all of your learning and growing experiences (a.k.a the hard stuff) and create beautiful things with them.
  • Sometimes even the most toxic traits can hide in ways that appear harmless.
  • It’s time to ask yourself “What do I want!?”

A “people-pleasing” addict

From a young age, Ahdri Kent was forced to acknowledge and dismantle the generational trauma that was people-pleasing. When she was sixteen her father died in an extremely traumatic way; she was able to see how this trauma materialized in her mother.

I’m not happy, even though I am doing all the things I need to

After decades of piping out energy for other people, Ahdri decided to pipe out energy for herself. Treating her people-pleasing personality just like any other behavioral disorder she was able to start healing. Instead of doing “what was supposed to be done,” she started doing things for herself. And soon discovered that was a healthier approach for everyone.

Ahdri says “We often light ourselves on fire for other people but we don’t even know if their cold!”

The Whimsical Rebel

Ahdri’s debut book is a potent blend of self-help, behavioral addiction advocacy and fantastically fucked up humor. It’s wrapped up in an easy-to-read collection of her step-by-step recovery methodology and personal stories of co-dependency.

Dealing With Sexuality

While writing her book Ahdri was able to connect with herself on a personal level. Part of the experience of finding yourself deals with sexuality, and Ahdri was smacked in the face with her own sexuality. 

Ahdri had spent so many years When she sat down with her partner of eleven years and came out, it was the bravest thing she has ever done.

Connect with Ahdri

While Ahdri has decided that coaching is not in her future you can still keep up with her online. You can buy The Whimiscal Rebel, her debut book, or hear the audiobook on her website. On her website, you can also find out what type of people-pleaser you are! You can also find Ahdri on social media on Facebook and Instagram.

Giving is Good

Give as much as you can, to as many people as possible!

Ahdri is a firm believer in giving to as many charities as possible and spreading around the love she is most touched by the work of The National Black Justice Coalition. NBJC’s mission is to end racism, homophobia, and LGBTQ/SGL bias and stigma. They envision a world where all people are fully empowered to participate safely, openly, and honestly in family, faith, and community, regardless of race, class, gender identity, or sexual orientation.

"Don’t light yourself on fire to keep other's warm before you even ask if they’re cold."

- Ahdri Kent

Meet your Host, <em style="color:teal">Heather Vickery<em>

Meet your Host, Heather Vickery

Heather Vickery is an award-winning business owner and global leader with over 20 years as an entrepreneur. She leverages her entrepreneurial skills and expertise to coach individuals towards greater personal and professional fulfillment by helping them leverage their fear into intentional bravery. Heather says “When we choose bravely, on purpose, we choose bigger, have bigger successes and it’s contagious” A celebrated public speaker, Heather inspires audiences and empowers attendees with the tools they need to live bold and successful lives through creating balance, time management, mindfulness, as well as countless systems, strategies, and boundaries. She’s the author of Gratitude Journal: Shift Your Focus and Grow Grateful: A Gratitude Journal for Kids and Families. Heather is also the host and executive producer of The Brave Files Podcast.

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