Learning to Love Yourself

With Featured Guest

Nechama Robinson

Intense • Personal • Empowered

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Learning to Love Yourself

With Featured Guest

Nechama Robinson

Intense • Personal • Empowered

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Top Takeaways From This Episode

  • Spirituality is as personal as sexuality.
  • We must take responsibility for what we pass down. “If you give a 5-year-old a machete you cannot blame the 5-year-old for hurting themselves and others.”
  • The best way to resolve conflict with a loved one is to love yourself first.
  • We can all forgive different things and forgiveness is freedom.
  • It’s never too late to learn a new skill.

Growing Up Judgmental

Nechama Robinson grew up in an Orthodox Jewish household that lead Nechama down some interesting roads. In what she describes as a “judgemental culture,” Nechama never strayed away from conflict. After years of an abusive relationship, a singular betrayal of trust was enough to make Nechama stand up for herself and begin living life on her terms.

“If you’re not feeling better in a week you need to attend the support group.”

Nechama found herself in a depressive state after being betrayed by her husband. A deep love for her daughter was the only thing keeping her going. Soon after she found herself at a women's support group where her entire life changed. She realized then that she had to change the way she was living her life, or else there wouldn’t be a life to live.


After struggling with defunct personality quizzes that don’t take individuality into account Nechama decided to create her own. The UnConflict resolution method uses its client-centered, 9-personality framework to understand who you are. This understanding makes it possible to establish a common language for moving past stressful conflicts efficiently and thoroughly. Each of the nine personalities brings together two basic aspects of the human experience. These two components answer the questions:

Which sphere of life is the home base of our identity 




What experience is our strongest motivator to push past life’s challenges


Making a difference

Healing the chaos

Learning about yourself is a superpower

Nechama has discovered a way to help all of us learn more about ourselves, our motivations, and our desires. Her scientific-based approach is fascinating, to say the least.

Learn more and connect with Nechama

You can find more about Nechama and her work on her Website. You can also find her podcast Speaking of Humanity wherever you listen to your podcasts. Make sure you check her out on Facebook Instagram and Twitter.

Giving is Good

"My line in the sand may have been really far out, but I did have a line. And he crossed it."

- Nechama Robinson

Meet your Host, <em style="color:teal">Heather Vickery<em>

Meet your Host, Heather Vickery

Heather Vickery is an award-winning business owner and global leader with over 20 years as an entrepreneur. She leverages her entrepreneurial skills and expertise to coach individuals towards greater personal and professional fulfillment by helping them leverage their fear into intentional bravery. Heather says “When we choose bravely, on purpose, we choose bigger, have bigger successes and it’s contagious” A celebrated public speaker, Heather inspires audiences and empowers attendees with the tools they need to live bold and successful lives through creating balance, time management, mindfulness, as well as countless systems, strategies, and boundaries. She’s the author of Gratitude Journal: Shift Your Focus and Grow Grateful: A Gratitude Journal for Kids and Families. Heather is also the host and executive producer of The Brave Files Podcast.

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