Sex • Reclamation • Healing
Growing up in an abusive household, Leah Carey experienced sexual trauma from an early age. Her father was an alcoholic and narcissist. Demonstrating classic narcissistic behavior, Leah’s father was beloved within the community but a nightmare inside the walls of his home. As a young girl, Leah felt trapped and unable to reach out for help in fear of ruining her father’s reputation. Unfortunately, the contradiction of his messages left her completely confused. On one hand, she heard that no one would ever want her. On the other hand, she was told she’d be so physically desired that she would need her father’s protection. Leah’s father began making sexual comments about her body by the time she was twelve.
The Impact Of Sexual Trauma
As a result of enduring years of sexual trauma, Leah didn’t begin dating until after college. At the time, she didn’t understand that the trauma experienced during her upbringing was a form of sexual abuse.
Subsequently, Leah endured painful sexual experiences time and time again. Eventually, this resulted in a lack of sexual sensation. Her body numbed to protect itself from the continuous pain and trauma. After discussion with her therapist, Leah decided to take a solo road trip across the country in an effort to rediscover herself. Through her time spent focused on her own needs and desires, she found power in her own body. Leah’s view of her own body transformed, and she learned to love herself on her own terms.
Turning Trauma Into Empowerment
Eventually, Leah decided to share her story online. She realized the impact her vulnerability had on other women as her honesty encouraged other women to do the same. Undoubtedly, Leah believes in the importance of continuing the discussion about all sexual experiences. Additionally, she knows we need to look at the them through a completely nonjudgmental and non-shaming lens. Everyone’s experience is difference, but everyone’s experience matters. It’s through this open discussion that we emphasize the importance of body positivity, self-love, and advocating for our own pleasure.
- It’s important for survivors of sexual trauma to know that they are NOT broken.
- You are ALWAYS allowed to say no.
- It's not okay for somebody to pressure you into something that you're not ready to do. That's abuse.
- We all have the right to explore every element of living a happy and healthy life.
- Body positivity is so important!
Leah supports Access Reproductive Care – Southeast, an organization focused on helping people in Alabama, Florida, Georgia, Mississippi, South Carolina, and Tennessee gain access to safe and affordable reproductive care. ARC Southeast provides financial and logistical support through advocacy, education, and leadership development across southern communities.
Leah’s podcast, Good Girls Talk About Sex, shows us that healing is real and very possible! Leah now works as a Sexual Communication Coach and focuses on the power of healing through open discussion. She helps women learn to advocate for their own desires, bodies, and pleasure. Learn more about her coaching here.
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