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Becoming Dad – EP. 67

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After coming out as transgender, Nick North shares his story of becoming a father to the children he birthed, all while explaining the ways he now sees gender impacting every aspect of our lives. The Brave Files.

BRAVE • MESSY • ORDINARY

NICK NORTH

Top Takeaways From This Episode:

  • You can be scared and brave at the same time.
  • Your truth matters.
  • There is beauty in the ordinary.

Show Notes:

Nick North is a husband, dad to five kids, and a Branding Strategist, but this wasn’t always the case. He began his adult life as a woman, a mom, and a photographer. Eventually, Nick chose bravely and came out as transgender. This act changed everything.

Rocky Beginnings

For Nick, life as a woman never felt right. Even as a child, he knew he didn’t identify as a girl. However, he still followed through with the things typically expected by society – a gender-specific appearance, marriage, and children, to name a few. Nick birthed four children, in fact. During this time, he felt incredibly sad and empty. The loneliness overwhelmed him until he fell in love with his best friend, Katherine.

Coming Out – The First Time

Initially, Nick came out as a lesbian. He expressed his feelings to Katherine, divorced from his husband, and started down a new path. This path was not easy, of course. After 12 years of marriage and raising four children together, the situation was bound to be challenging. But difficult as it was, Nick knew this was the first brave step he needed to take towards his future. In essence, the pathway to happiness was found in that place of total vulnerability.

A Full Transition

After a few years as an out lesbian, Nick embraced his truest self.  He knew that transition would change everything. So with the love and support of Katherine and his children, Nick came out officially as transgender.

Today, Nick lives what he refers to as a perfectly ordinary life. He's happy, and his children are thriving. Bravery comes in many forms and Nick reminds us that living as your authentic self is certainly an act of courage.

 

After coming out as transgender, Nick North shares his story of becoming a father to the children he birthed, all while explaining the ways he now sees gender impacting every aspect of our lives. The Brave Files.
Dana Pugh Photography Okotoks Studio Photography

Gender Roles in Society

Nick’s unique perspective, from both sides of the gender coin, provides quite a bit of insight into society’s influence on gender. He's experienced life as a mother and father. He knows he received different treatment in each of those roles. Frustratingly, Nick is given more praise as an involved father than he did as an involved mother. His parenting style and involvement stayed exactly the same, but society now views him differently. Gender roles and biases are real, friends!

More about Nick

Nick is a Branding Strategist and public speaker. He's passionate about helping others get clear on how they can impact their audience, make money, and tell their story all while navigating life as their truest self. He works like he lives – with courage!

Want to connect with Nick or learn more? Here's his website. You can also connect with him through Facebook and Instagram.

Creating a Documentary

Nick and Katherine are working on an amazing project. They received a grant from Storyhive to create a documentary! They're sharing the story of their family, subsequently launching into a full-blown movement. With a conference, podcast, and online support community, the “Beautiful Families” project is what this world needs – empowerment for all nontraditional families.

The “Just Another Beautiful Family: An Extra-Ordinary Transgender Life” documentary will be out this summer!

If you enjoyed this episode check out these other interviews related to transgender: Queer Recovering HomophobeWhat Happen's if I'm a girl and Life From The Other Side.

Giving is Good:

Nick supports Skipping Stone Foundation, a wonderful nonprofit organization that works with trans and gender diverse youth and their families. Skipping stones provide support and resources necessary for leading happy and healthy lives of authenticity. The Skipping Stone Foundation provides community-building events, empowerment opportunities, and access to mental health support. they even offer medical transition-related services. Organizations like the Skipping Stone Foundation truly make a difference in the lives of those stepping bravely into their power.

After coming out as transgender, Nick North shares his story of becoming a father to the children he birthed, all while explaining the ways he now sees gender impacting every aspect of our lives. The Brave Files.
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Heather Vickery
Heather Vickery is an award-winning business owner and global leader with over 20 years as an entrepreneur. She leverages her entrepreneurial skills and expertise to coach individuals towards greater personal and professional fulfillment by helping them leverage their fear into intentional bravery. Heather says “When we choose bravely, on purpose, we choose bigger, have bigger successes and it’s contagious” A celebrated public speaker, Heather inspires audiences and empowers attendees with the tools they need to live bold and successful lives through creating balance, time management, mindfulness, as well as countless systems, strategies, and boundaries. She’s the author of Gratitude Journal: Shift Your Focus and Grow Grateful: A Gratitude Journal for Kids and Families. Heather is also the host and executive producer of The Brave Files Podcast.
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