Kirsten Palladino struggled to forgive herself for being vulnerable after sexual abuse

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**The content in this piece is graphic and we discuss sexual abuse**

Kirsten Palladino, this guest on this episode of The Brave Files, shares the story of how she turned her life around after years of sexual abuse and trauma.


For a long time, Kirsten was living in two different worlds: by day, playing the part of a happy teenager, and by night, being subjected to horrible abuse. As a young girl, Kirsten was molested by a family friend. In high school, she was victimized by several classmates. Somehow, Kirsten found the courage to tell her story, allowing her to begin the difficult process of healing and putting herself back together.


Today, Kirsten has risen above the traumatic events of her young life to build a successful life and business. Together with her wife, Maria, she founded Equally Wed, an online magazine and digital resource for same-sex weddings. She also authored a book of the same title (Equally Wed).


Kirsten’s #MeToo story is also a story of #WhyIStayed. The interview sheds light on how victims of sexual abuse can wrongly blame themselves.


Kirsten’s three words say everything about this brave woman. Despite the horrors she has experienced, she chooses to live a life that is brave, joyful and full of love. There are so many gifts in this episode.

Kirsten sent me her personal thoughts on her story and I simply had to share them with you.

My story may be unusual and I love telling how I am working through sexual trauma. But I also believe that we are all brave. When people hear my story or even segments of it, I'm often told “You're so brave” or “You're so strong.” And yes, I am. I will own that. I can be humble and still proud of how far I've come. I've been close to death. I've been locked up in a mental institution on suicide watch. I've held my dead baby in my teenage arms. I've wondered if I'd ever make it out of houses alive. I have wondered if I'd ever be able to make love without feeling fear. I've wondered if I would ever be able to forgive myself for being so vulnerable, for being such easy prey, for simply being a child. 

But I also love Emily Dickinson's words of wisdom that essentially say that we are all brave:

We never know how high we are
Till we are called to rise;
And then, if we are true to plan,
Our statures touch the skies—

The Heroism we recite
Would be a daily thing,
Did not ourselves the Cubits warp
For fear to be a King—

The Brave Files Podcast welcomes author and survivor, Kirsten Palladino
Top Takeaways:
  • Trauma doesn’t have to hold us back from living a full life
  • One helping hand may be all someone needs to get out of a bad situation
  • Connecting with others who have shared your experience can be a pathway to healing
Giving Is Good!

The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) operates the National Sexual Violence Hotline (800-656-HOPE) and works to prevent sexual violence and help survivors.

Kirsten is also active with Georgia Equality, which supports lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people throughout the state of Georgia.

More About Kirsten:

Kirsten Palladino is the editorial director of, the world’s leading equality-minded wedding website for LGBTQ+ couples, which she co-founded with her wife in 2010. She is the author of the newly published book, Equally Wed: The Ultimate Guide to Planning Your LGBTQ+ Wedding (May 2017, Hachette Book Group and Seal Press).


An award-winning editor and writer, Palladino has enjoyed having her work appear in esteemed magazines, newspapers, and websites. For more than 17 years, she’s covered equal rights, weddings, art, travel, restaurants, fashion, beauty, celebrities, profiles, and music. She’s been a recurrent guest on CNN discussing marriage equality and same-sex weddings, as well as an invited speaker at wedding industry conferences and equal rights conventions around the globe. She blogs infrequently about recovering from sexual trauma on, and she’s at work on a memoir centering on the same topic.


Kirsten’s expertise has been sought out by luminary media outlets including The New York Times, CNN, CNN International,, NPR, Martha Stewart Weddings, Washington Post, A Practical Wedding, Bridal Musings, The Knot, Brides Magazine, Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, ABC News, The Advocate, AOL, Yahoo News, The Associated Press and The Los Angeles Times.


Kirsten Palladino was the 2010 recipient of Atlanta Business Chronicle’s Up & Comers award, and Fenuxe Magazine’s 2011 Top 50 award “in recognition of her dedication to the Atlanta LGBT community.” Equally Wed recently was honored by the Webby Awards as an honoree in the lifestyle category.


Kirsten lives in Atlanta, Georgia, with her wife and their twin 7-year-old sons, where they try to enjoy each day as it comes, walk barefoot in the grass, make nightly dinners together as a family, and laugh often.

Today, Kirsten is a successful business owner, author, wife and, mother.

Today, a successful business owner, author, wife and mother, Kirsten Palladino had a rough start in life. The Brave Files Podcast

As a teenager, Kirsten hid the trauma and abuse from her friends and loved ones.

A teenage Kirsten Palladino hid the trauma and abuse from her friends and family. The Brave Files Podcast.

Kirsten authored the book  “Equally Wed” named after her successful online magazine and LGBTQ wedding resource guide.

Kirsten's first book, Equally Wed
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